I have been told several times in my life that I am too nice. In the past, I would be admonished by a friend or a boyfriend if I let someone in front of me in a line or give an able-bodied person my seat on a bus. I would just laugh it off because, in my mind, there was no problem… until recently. Now, for some reason, I am being treated like it’s some kind of horrible character flaw. Well, there are women that quit the corporate world, just look at this video:
“Oh, You are being way passive aggressive.”
“You are too nice, you need to be more forceful.”
“They are going to walk all over you if you keep being so nice.”
These are quotes from my work colleagues. Honestly, what is so wrong with being a nice person? Saying hello and smiling at a complete stranger? Letting someone merge into the lane in front of you? Or even worse, being nice to a person who only the day before, made your day at work a living hell?
We’re getting toward the end of the year and one of the hardest things I’ve learned over the past year is that I had to accept that in no way do I have control over so many elements in my life, and especially people!